Is it a quality of the space or the product of my own perception?

I observe the space, shut my eyes briefly, and look at the space afresh. If anything has changed could it be ascertained with certainty whether in the space or in my view of the space? Furthermore: if nothing appears to have changed, where does this consistency stem from?
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Akiko:
She looks at me like I offend everyone when I walk out the door.
(8 October 2016)

Akiko:
I feel like she constantly judges me because I'm in therapy and I have to take medications.
(8 October 2016)

Akiko:
All clothes that she has approved and picked out for me.
(8 October 2016)

Akiko:
She constantly shames me for what I wear.
(8 October 2016)

Akiko:
I quit dance when it gave me an eating disorder and they started making us undress and twerk on stage.
(8 October 2016)

Akiko:
She told me that I'm a disappointment because I quit dance.
(8 October 2016)

Akiko:
One girl, my moms best friend's daughter, would go around telling people that, but no one believed her.
(8 October 2016)

Akiko:
My friend's don't think of me like that.
(8 October 2016)

Akiko:
She said that all my friends all ready think I'm a slut so why would I try and add to it.
(8 October 2016)

Akiko:
She says it makes me look like a whore.
(8 October 2016)

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Lyla:
But ever sine day 1 of our relationship I've felt insecure and like it's eventually going to end.
(17 October 2016)

Lyla:
He always tells me he loves me before we get off of the phone, and I believe him.
(17 October 2016)

Lyla:
He always talks about our plans for the future and living together and getting married once I finish my degree.
(17 October 2016)

Lyla:
I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and I've known him for 5. He is in the army and I'm in college.
(17 October 2016)

Taren:
Been on 8 dates with a girl (26) who doesn't have much dating experience. How often should I contact her?
(17 October 2016)

Taren:
Have texted every few days but never called.
(17 October 2016)

Taren:
Already taken her to the zoo and met her friends, and cooked her dinner.
(17 October 2016)

Sena:
I'm scared my boyfriend will hurt himself if I break up with him. What do I do?
(17 October 2016)

Sena:
Continuing a relationship is wrong but breaking up would crush him.
(17 October 2016)

Sena:
I've been working up the courage to break up with him in a way that ends in us being friends because like I said he means the world to me, just not in a relationship way.
(17 October 2016)